Can No-Strings-Attached Relationships Really Work?
Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make
Blowing More Than His ... Mind
Confessions of a Former Mistress
Dating After Marriage
Is Dating Harder if You’re Smarter?
Dating Over Fifty-Five
Emotional unavailability should equal unavailable period. While I agree that the state of mind is in fact real, I feel that a man that is emotionally unavailable is acting in a selfish manner when making himself available in other areas to a woman. The truth of the matter is that while there are many women who would claim that they can be in the same state of mind, most women are not. Even if they have just gotten out of a relationship or if they have a busy life, or what have you, most women are looking for a companion that can fulfill an emotional need. For example, I am a woman that is way too busy for a relationship right now and in the past I have found my self emotionally detaching myself from relationships or unwanted boyfriends, but part of the reason for doing so is because when I discover that the relationship/friendship/just kickin it or whatever you call it is not meeting my emotional needs that I have no use for it.
We live in a time where women are independent and dont desire a man to be breadwinners, and handymen anymore. I make my own money, I have my own place, I drive my own car, and I put together and fix any and everything that needs it around my house. Therefore, Im sure many women would agree that to have an emotionally unavailable man to deal with at the end of any busy woman's day is so unattractive and serves no purpose to us. Especially because we are wired differently then men are. We may not be looking for a husband or long term mate, but we want one and when we meet the man that does all the right things and says all the right things, how are we to look past that and be considerate of the emotional unavailability? I dont think we should have to. I think a man should say upfront that he is not available at all if this is the case.
I will say in man's defense that women need to have some boundaries set for themselves as well. They should not be disappointed if they agree to deal with someone under such terms with the motives to change things and it doesnt happen. I see this happen many times as well and it never works. Women too often get hurt behind their own choices and their own willingness to settle for less than they are worth or less than they are looking for. If you are in the market for a long term relationship, dont get involved with someone who uses emotionally unavailable as a reason not to commit. Its just another way of saying, I have not dealt with or gotten over the feelings from someone or something in the past and if he hasnt done that then he shouldnt be bothered with anyway.
Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make
Blowing More Than His ... Mind
Confessions of a Former Mistress
Dating After Marriage
Is Dating Harder if You’re Smarter?
Dating Over Fifty-Five
Emotional unavailability should equal unavailable period. While I agree that the state of mind is in fact real, I feel that a man that is emotionally unavailable is acting in a selfish manner when making himself available in other areas to a woman. The truth of the matter is that while there are many women who would claim that they can be in the same state of mind, most women are not. Even if they have just gotten out of a relationship or if they have a busy life, or what have you, most women are looking for a companion that can fulfill an emotional need. For example, I am a woman that is way too busy for a relationship right now and in the past I have found my self emotionally detaching myself from relationships or unwanted boyfriends, but part of the reason for doing so is because when I discover that the relationship/friendship/just kickin it or whatever you call it is not meeting my emotional needs that I have no use for it.
We live in a time where women are independent and dont desire a man to be breadwinners, and handymen anymore. I make my own money, I have my own place, I drive my own car, and I put together and fix any and everything that needs it around my house. Therefore, Im sure many women would agree that to have an emotionally unavailable man to deal with at the end of any busy woman's day is so unattractive and serves no purpose to us. Especially because we are wired differently then men are. We may not be looking for a husband or long term mate, but we want one and when we meet the man that does all the right things and says all the right things, how are we to look past that and be considerate of the emotional unavailability? I dont think we should have to. I think a man should say upfront that he is not available at all if this is the case.
I will say in man's defense that women need to have some boundaries set for themselves as well. They should not be disappointed if they agree to deal with someone under such terms with the motives to change things and it doesnt happen. I see this happen many times as well and it never works. Women too often get hurt behind their own choices and their own willingness to settle for less than they are worth or less than they are looking for. If you are in the market for a long term relationship, dont get involved with someone who uses emotionally unavailable as a reason not to commit. Its just another way of saying, I have not dealt with or gotten over the feelings from someone or something in the past and if he hasnt done that then he shouldnt be bothered with anyway.